Do You Really Know Where You Are Going? On the Courage to Be "Unreasonable"

"Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?" said Alice.
"That depends a good deal on where you want to get to," said the Cat.
"I don't much care where—" said Alice.
"Then it doesn't matter which way you go," said the Cat.
Lewis Carroll, "Alice in Wonderland"

"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world: the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man."
George Bernard Shaw

Two vastly different quotes, yet both touch the very core of how we live, how we make decisions, and... how our body reacts to it.

We often think that being "reasonable"—meeting other people's expectations, avoiding conflicts, and blending into our environment—is the safest life strategy. We learn this from childhood: be polite, don't stand out, fit in.

On the other hand, we have the Alice syndrome. When you don't know where you want to go, any path seems fine, but every decision is also random. It's a simple but true metaphor – if you don't have a designated goal, the direction you choose doesn't really matter. You hand over the steering wheel to external circumstances, which often ends in a feeling of standing still.

The Trap of "Reason" and Losing Your Compass

From the perspective of Recall Healing and psychosomatics, the body always follows the mind. If you don't have your own authentic direction, your body may start to feel it as stagnation, lack of purpose, or inner conflict. This is often associated with a drop in energy, a feeling of heaviness, and sometimes ailments related to the musculoskeletal system and knees—because the locomotor system is there to help us move forward, and knees speak of submission against our will.

Adapting to the world, often against your own nature, is a huge energetic expense. When you "reasonably" stay in a job that burns you out, or in a relationship where there is no space for your needs, your body has to endure constant tension.

The Courage to Be "Unreasonable"

George Bernard Shaw was right—progress (including personal, internal progress) depends on people who have the courage to be "unreasonable." Unreasonable in the sense that they stop pleasing everyone around them, start setting their own course, and build true self-love around it.

Creating a world adapted to yourself is not arrogance; it is a profound act of self-love. It is setting clear boundaries: "This serves me, and this does not."

Your process of returning to balance often begins in this exact moment—when you decide that you will no longer push your needs to the background. When you define your direction, just as Alice should have done, your choices cease to be random, and your organism can finally breathe a sigh of relief.